Hey Gorgeous,
Welcome back. I am so excited to share this week's blog with the world. It's been long overdue.
If you've gotten a chance to look at any of my workbooks, you've probably noticed a trending topic: Trauma.
All the topics I've written about are a direct product of something I healed. My relationship with money, booze, heart, and body… have all survived a form of trauma.
I don't want to make this a bummer of a post, so I'll save my actual story for later. BUT I do want to share with you the formula that helped me heal.
Steve Jobs said:
"You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future."
I love this quote because 1. It's all about trusting your process and having faith in your dreams, and 2. It shows us how to learn from our past.
In my case, once I knew I was healed from the abuse I had encountered as a child, I knew I had to help other women do the same.
But I had to go back and figure out the exact steps I took to heal. But once I found them, it wasn't enough. I decided to put them to the test in other areas of my life that needed help.
So I tried them with my drinking, eating, money, and a broken heart. And guess what? I'm 5 for 5. My process has worked every time.
So what is this formula? Here it is.
Recognizing Trauma + Awareness = loving life again
Aligned Action
Recognize your Trauma. Let's start with the first part. Of Course, if you are familiar with trauma, you know it's hard to move past it. Except what I've found is that often, we make it A LOT harder than it has to be. Our egos will have us going to places that aren't even part of the trauma.
We'll make up entire stories and scenarios to support our traumas, and then we will keep reliving them over and over and over and over for years (some of us decades)
But you don't have to do that, babe. The process is challenging enough.
On the other hand, sometimes, we completely block out, or straight-up deny our trauma.
To be able to heal, you need to know what you're healing. But don't worry. Even if you're not entirely sure, often, once you begin to scratch at it, you get a better feel for what you need to do.
Awareness. This means you stop allowing your jumbled-up thoughts to keep playing ping-pong in your brain. And you learn to give them a purpose. You lay down everything before you and follow it back to the source. Then you learn to heal it.
I know I'm making it sound easy, but the truth is -it's not complicated. We already did the hard part. We already survived the worst of it.
This new part only stays hard if we allow it to because the truth is, babe, we are in FULL control of this part.
Aligned Action. This part is the "secret sauce" to getting past the trauma. If you think about it, you've been taking action from the moment you went through your trauma.
The first thing you did might have been to (understandably) go into survival mode. You shut down. You protected yourself.
After that, you started coping as best you could.
And then you kept on coping, surviving, and probably trying to forget.
But how has that helped you regain your love of life?
Are your action steps serving you? Or are they just giving you a false sense of safety?
Taking Aligned action means you put meaning behind every tear, prayer, and source of comfort. It means that everything you DO moves you away from a grieving version of you to the healed version of you.
When you take aligned action, there is intent, and there is a purpose, and there is undeniable healing.
Want to find out more on how to do all three?
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Thank you so much for being here, babe,
To your success…
Edna