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When your Thoughts and Emotions don't Align

Updated: Feb 25, 2022

Hey Conscious Babes,

Welcome back to another blog. This one was inspired by a tiny (sort of massive) breakdown I had earlier this week.

But the beauty of all breakdowns is that they are usually followed by an awesome breakthrough, right?

Has this ever happened to you? You have a goal. You start working on your goal. All kinds of obstacles start preventing you from said goal. You feel stuck because you feel like you should be prioritizing these obstacles, but also, you're no quitter- you have to keep going with your goal.

You keep going, but (soon enough) you start feeling resentful, tired, burnt-out and disconnected. But you think you're so determined? Why are your feelings not matching up? Sound familiar?

If it does, you're in luck. I have a lot of first-hand experience in this field. These types of breakdowns used to take me FOREVER to get through. Not only that, but they usually ended in me giving up on my goals.

I always ended up just drifting by, trying to survive life.

Thankfully I have years of therapy, hundreds of books, and videos worth of info to help me. I now get through these types of breakdowns in just a few hours. And the best part is, my life always gets better after. So without further ado…check out this week's tips on getting all of your thoughts and feelings on check.

Allow yourself to be pissed. One of the worst things you can do for yourself (like ever) is to try and convince yourself you are superhuman. You're not. You may be an amazing human (but nonetheless), you are a human that has emotions and limits.

If you are trying to do something, and all kinds of things start popping up in your head, instead of trying to bottle it all in, try this; take a seat somewhere and be pissed about it. Cry, hit a pillow, imagine the worst-case scenarios and dwell on it until your mind gets bored of it, and all you really want to do is get over it and fix it.

Ask yourself why things keep popping up when you're trying to better your life. The Big Leap book by Gay Hendricks describes this scenario as an "upper limit belief." According to him, it never fails to happen. A person pushing for a goal will subconsciously find ways to self-sabotage. You'll get sick, or your kids will get sick, or you'll lose your job, or draw in some sort of huge unforeseen bill.

The good news is that you should actually take this as a good sign. According to Hendricks, this means you are about to make a significant shift in your life (IF you can get past the hurdles). The only way to pass those hurdles is to focus on where you want to go. Do not focus on where you think you should be or how you are currently feeling (e.g., scared or angry). You can only choose one focus.

Untangle your emotions. You can do this by figuring out the essence of the way you want to feel. For example, you feel like you want money. You think you shouldn't focus on money so much because it makes you greedy. But you want to feel financially prosperous.

With so many thoughts and emotions, you are bound to make yourself crazy. Especially if you think about them so much, they're practically running on an endless loop in the back of your mind.

Stop. Take a deep breath. And think, what is the point of me wanting money? Do I want to feel the freedom to do whatever I want? Why? What do I want to do with that freedom? Go to beautiful restaurants? Spend more time with my family? Pay someone else to do my chores?

When you figure it out, accept that this is you and there is nothing wrong or greedy with what you want. You are allowed to have your own desires and priorities. If money helps get you those things and makes you a happier human being, then you are actually one of the people making this world a better place.

Once you've reconciled your thoughts, keep working toward your goals. Handle any obstacles with grace, a calm mind, and have faith that everything you want is coming.

Trust me, it's a lot easier to do it when your thoughts and emotions are all on the same team.

Ok, you pretty girl- that's it for today. Don't forget to share and subscribe if you want to be entered to win monthly giveaways, exclusive content, and a freebies library. Until next time...

I love you so much,


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